Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Nothing good to report

I know the post's title grabbed you. Feel free to go on to the next blog or check out your FB account. I will understand.

Honestly, I'm not even sure I can bring you up to speed so much has happened over the past two months. However, one major event and not necessarily a good one, is the fact that I brought my mom for her annual mammography and one year to the day...they found a malignant tumor. It has been removed and the surgeon got all the "bad" cells. Now, she is going for radiation. Rather, I will be bringing her to radiation everyday for the next 5 or 6 weeks. Of course, I don't begrudge her the help, I just wish the responsibility of the transportation didn't fall all on me. However, my sister the CPA - well, need I say more? It IS tax season. Army wife, lives upstate and is geographically unsuitable to provide assistance. Finally, there is Red. My sister, Red will help if she isn't working. Honestly, being a SAHM I am the logical choice. Right now, I know I am feeling overwhelmed. I'll be fine.

It doesn't help that one of my mother friends is being snarky. I'm partially to blame because apparently I just don't know when to stop talking. I was speaking to a friend of my friend and all of a sudden I said too much. Maybe you've been there. You're comfortable, relaxing and chatting then words are coming out before you can censor yourself. I like to call it diarrhea of the mouth. The thing that really bothers me is that it took her a week, 7 days!, to tell me. Is it asking too much to expect people to be "adult" and say "hey, you hurt my feelings" or "you were out of line" when you said this. Instead, she waited until today, when all of a sudden she laid into me. When she clarified her issue with me, I apologized immediately. However, I can't help but feel I'll be doing penance for this one for a while. I should mention that I noticed that she and I were "off" but didn't know what was bothering her.

One of the churches I work for is cutting my pittance of a salary in half. It's the one where the director challenges me musically. The pastor met with me and the other ladies who sing tonight. The economy...blah, blah, blah. Can't say I'm happy about it and I can't say I'm definitely sticking around for it to "get better". He (the pastor) is a good actor, he had the right catch in his voice and looked distraught. I have to admit, he had his part down. Well, we'll see. I'd like to think about this. If I do leave, I will miss the director (who fought against our pay cut). He really is an awesome musician and an upstanding kind of guy.

27 comments:

LceeL said...

I'm so sorry that things are tough for you right now. I would give you the *BIGGEST HUG* if I could - and not just the Internet kind. I would wrap my arms around you and just squeeze until all that bad stuff went away.

Well. Maybe we better stick to the *Internet HUG*. 'K?

Natalie said...

Sorry to hear about your Mom, sweetie.......and the whole Church thing. Blergh!
In regard to your verbal diarrhea:

> I totally get it!

> I help myself through this, by talking slower, and visualising a funny face with enormous ears, and a tiny shut mouth.
Listen more, talk less.
Sending you a hug too! xx♥

Tara R. said...

Sending good thoughts for your mom, and you.

Momisodes said...

I am very sorry to hear about your mom. I can only imagine how much this alone weighs everything else in life down. I'm thinking good thoughts for you both.

Hoping the weeks ahead bring you more positive news.

Holly at Tropic of Mom said...

Wow, that's a lot to deal with. I hope the radiation treatments will help your mom, and that things will be smoothed over with your friend.

Holly at Tropic of Mom said...

I hope you have something good to report soon. Been missing seeing new posts from you. :)

mastermindmommy said...

Ok, so first off, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I hope everything works out for you. And that thing with the church sucks too. I'm sending some good vibes your way.

Now can I just tell you HOW FREAKING EXCITED I am to see that you have a blog?? I wish you had told me about this sooner. I'm so relieved to have a blogger friend so close to home.

Please don't hesitate to call on me if you EVER need anything. I am also a SAHM so I'm around even if you just want to get together for coffee or something while the kiddies are at school.

Oh, and thanks for reading and commenting on my posts. It really means a lot. :) I look forward to reading more from you!

Cookie said...

I'm so far behind in reading blogs. I can't believe all that you've been through. Although I may be late, I do understand how you feel (or felt). I hate when people assume that because i'm a SAHM that I have so much free time. That's not true! And the part about friends not saying things. That drives me crazy! My husband says it's because I'm from NJ where we say things and now I live in WA where everyone is raised to be polite no matter what. Hope things got better for you!

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Holly at Tropic of Mom said...

Just want to say hey and thank you for continuing to read my blog. I don't have your e-mail to respond to. I hope things are going great for you and your family this summer!

Susan said...

I'm sorry your Mom has to face this challenge. I was an oncology nurse for many years. I can tell you that she is likely pretty scared right now. Your travel time may turn out to be a special time where you get to know each other better. You may turn out to be the lucky one!

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